Transforming the Journey:
Mentoring Lives Through Magic and Myth
Big Enough Questions
Regarding the second criterion, big enough questions, Parks suggests that mentoring environments have the "capacity to extend hospitality to big questions."23 Some questions emanate from personal motives and meanings. What does it mean to be a member of this community and this life? Is this a worthy calling? Can I commit my life to this? Toward what ends are we moving in this community? Other questions extend from the inevitable dilemmas and challenges of day-to-day member experiences. Can I live with the compromises I sometimes face in responding to others' needs? How do I resolve inconsistencies I witness among those whom I admire most in this community? What taints my own actions in that regard? "Big questions," says Parks, "stretch us. They reveal the gaps in our knowledge, in our social arrangements, in our ambitions and aspirations. Big questions are . . . ones that ultimately matter." 24 Whether immediate or long-term, big questions must be attended to in the lives of community members.